Marriage Plan

Service Description

Session One : Healing and Resolving Past Emotional Challenges Before we can resolve the current issues, it's important to examine those areas which have not been resolved from your formative years and are a source of disharmony and conflict. The goal is to move from a place where tomorrow is not enslaved to the past and those consuming desires that you are trying to have your spouse meet are put in their proper place. Session Two: The Purpose of Unrealized Ideals in Marriage Many couples marry with the mindset that their spouse will become the source of personal joy, happiness and a freedom from disappointment and heartache. The expectation is a non-verbal ideal that life will go from uncertainty to security based on the actions of the other person. The variance between expectation and reality can lead to much conflict. We will look at the biblical way to fulfill those expectations through faith, doable steps to attain joy, without placing each other as the emotional fixer of all past hurts. Session Three: The Real Origin of Conflict and How to Reach Resolutions: We will first look at the primary issues that cause conflict in relationships and how to confront the behavior correctly. Not only will you learn good conflict resolution skills, but also will gain the ability to examine the core motivation behind those conflicts. We will walk through the primary sources that lead to relational conflicts and learn resolution skills to those challenges in a God-honoring manner. Session Four: Developing Effective Communication Skills The majority of communication problems arise from an ineffective way of listening to the other person’s viewpoint. Many people listen partially; others listen with filters from past experiences, leading to an incorrect interpretation and ultimately reaction to present circumstances. Other damaging factors in communication include avoiding confrontations through omission of information, and partial truths. We will discuss how you can develop true godly discernment and wisdom. By responding and reacting to the present circumstance, you will find a great reduction in the escalation from discussion to argument. I will share the proper foundational elements of a lasting marriage, to move communication from fearful and negative to a positive to a positive avenue for deeper intimacy.